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Welcome to the Source for Your Emotional
Nutrients™!
Here is the Menu for Your Emotional Nutrient
Choices
If you're not sure which Emotional Nutrients™ you
need at this moment, skim the pages below. It will give you some clues as to when you're likely to need a
specific type of nutrients.
When you find something that resonates with what you're feeling right
now, click on the link that will open up those Emotional Nutrients™, sit back, relax, breathe deeply, and enjoy
your Emotional meal! When you're done, you may listen again—as many times as you like. Or you may skip down to
something else that will also help fill up another part of your emotional self. This is your "restaurant." You
can't get physically fat from any of this (being abundantly well fed emotionally can only be good!), and
there’s no extra charge when you take in as much as you need. So freely fill your emotional tank now! Take as
much as you need, whenever you need them..
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Times When You Need the Emotional
Nutrients™
That Nourish Your Being:
- You’re becoming increasingly absent minded and unable to
concentrate.
- Your urges to think or to act are greatly diminished.
- Your sensations are intensified.
- You’re becoming preoccupied with sensual gratification.
- You’re becoming alive to pain or itching in your mouth,
throughout your entire gastrointestinal system, and all over
your skin.
- You want physical stimulation, on your skin and your mouth.
- You may be trying to satisfy these sensations by chewing a
pencil or gum, or wanting to smoke, or by rubbing or scratching
your skin.
- You want to eat frequently.
- You want down time, when you can simply be present without
having to do anything.
- You feel the need for more sleep, you want to nap, you feel
the need to go to bed early and get up late.
- You want to connect with others and just be together.
- You’re concerned with issues of trust – who you can trust
and who you cannot.
- You want recognition from others about the way you are
rather than for your deeds or accomplishments.
- You find words alone not as satisfying, and want the security
of being able to snuggle up close to someone you love and feel nourished and nurtured through emotional
bonds based on trust.
- You want someone else to take over for a while.
These messages are especially important for you when:
- You’re just born to six months old
- In a major way at ages 13, 26, 39, 52, 65, 78, 91
- In a minor way at ages 19, 38, 57, 76, 95
- You’re tired, hurt or vulnerable
- In period of rapid change or growth
- You’re suffering a personal loss
- You’re taking care of an infant
- You’re pregnant
- In any time of stress
- Just beginning any process.
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Times When You Need the Emotional
Nutrients™
That Nourish Your Ability to Do Things
- You’re preoccupied with wanting to do things
- Your curiosity is aroused
- You want to express yourself creatively
- You’re finding out what motivates you
- You want to move through the world
- Your developing your intuition
- You often consider whether to be passive or to initiate.
- Your dreams are often about movement, sights and sounds
and are full of activity.
- You need to find new footing – to get your feet on the ground
in a different way.
- You want to learn by doing rather than analyzing
- You’re having difficulty establishing or working toward goals.
- You want others to do the things that require thinking or
concentration.
- You want to follow your inner urges instead of what may be
socially convenient or responsible.
These messages are especially important for you when:
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You were a toddler between six months and eighteen months old
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You are age 13, 26, 39, 52, 65, 76, 95½
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You’ve filling up on nurturing
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You’re in any new situation
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You’re in the prelude to establishing a new level of independence
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You’re involved in a creative process
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You’re learning a new sensory skill such as music or a language
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You’re taking care of a toddler
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You’re in early puberty and ages which are multiples of them
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All Times When You Need the Emotional
Nutrients™
That Nourish Your Self as an Individual
and Your Capacity to Think
- You are going through phases of pushing against others and
testing them.
- You are preoccupied with finding or establishing your importance
in relation to other people.
- You want to find the limits in situations: How far is far enough,
or too far? Where do I stop and you begin? What do I control
in myself, this situation or this relationship?
- You want what's "mine" apart from "yours"
- You find yourself inviting others to think for you, and then feel
furious if they do.
- You keep focusing on themes related to separateness and responsibility,
asking “Where do I stop and you begin?”
And “What am I responsible for? And what are you responsible for?
- Your current concerns revolve around resistance, compliance and rebellion,
contrariness and control
- As you learn to depend less on others and more on yourself, you experience
bouts of forgetfulness, stubbornness, procrastination
or greed.
- You’re often feeling negative or ambivalent.
- You find you dream of being stuck, as if your feet are planted
in mud and you’re struggling to get free or that you’re panicking
in quicksand.
- You feel angry a lot with no apparent reason, and may even
feel like having a temper tantrum, just like 2 year olds do.
- You use anger to create boundaries between people.
- You have plenty of sensory exploring; now you need to
make connections between these sensory events by thinking
about them in a conceptual way.
- You’re struggling to develop new levels of self-control.
- You want to exert your opinion.
These messages are especially important for you
when:
- You were between eighteen months to three years old
- You’re taking care of a two-year-old
- You’re breaking out of a dependency relationship
- You’re developing new thinking abilities or learning new
information
- You’re developing a new personal position or taking a stand
on an issue
- You’re renegotiating and changing agreements with others
- You’re age 14, 28, 41, 54, 67, 80, 93.
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Times When You Need the Emotional Nutrients™
That Nourish Your Identity and Social Self
- You’re questioning who you are, you’re asking, “who is this
person I call “me”?
- You’re reconsidering and reevaluating your likes and dislikes,
your talents and allegiances, your heartbreaks and desires?
- You’re exploring consequences of behavior, you’re finding out
“what happens if…”I don't wear the right 'uniform' to work
even though I have for years...if I decide on a new job or career
...if I send the kids to camp and take a separate vacation
...if I do or don't stick to my budget (or diet).
- You’re establishing yourself in a new social group or wanting to establish
yourself in a new way in a group you’re already part of.
- You’re taking on a new role, such as from single to married,
from married to divorced, from childless to becoming a parent,
or from parent to grandparent, from employed to retired.
- You’re contemplating what is fantasy and what is reality, or reevaluating
what you consider to be sane or crazy.
- You’re experiencing nightmares full of frightening monsters,
surreal events or life threatening situations.
- You’re revisiting your past and mixing it with your imagining
who you want to be in your future.
- You’re identifying with a character in a myth, a movie star
or political figure, an older, admired acquaintance or even
an animal.
- You’re fascinated by characters in books, plays or stories,
and you’re trying on these images and using some to shape
your definition of yourself.
- Your statement to the world seems to be: "I'm here as a new
individual with my own power to affect this system, and I can
use it how I choose! I will influence this system one way
or another."
- You’re fascinated with the dynamics of relationships, with
finding your place in groups of people and discovering how
you can affect them.
- You do things to exert your power and determine the extent
of your influence in social networks.
- You’re preoccupied with what it means to be male or female,
what is the consequence of the biological fact of my gender?
What does it mean in your social world?
- You feel like you’re shedding an old skin and readying the
new one.
These messages are especially important for you
when:
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You were between three and six years old
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You’ve just finished creating new boundaries for your thinking and
independence
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You are seeking a new relationship to your family, job,
group or culture
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You’re just learning a new role or preparing to learn a new skill
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You’re parenting, grandparenting or caring for preschool children
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You’re age 15, 29, 42, 55, 68, 81.
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Times When You Need the Emotional Nutrients™
That Nourish Your Life Skills and Values
- You’re reviewing, developing and activating your own morals,
values and skills.
- You find you are becoming literal and argumentative, like an
eight year old lawyer.
- You feel clumsy and awkward like kids who are growing so
fast they can’t keep up with the size of therr bodies.
- You make frequent mistakes as you try out ways to make
things work.
- You place a higher value on contact with people outside
your usual circle of friends or family or coworkers because
it provides such a rich source of knowledge for how other
people do things.
- You seem fascinated with the corner of a mouth, the droop
of an eye, the move of a hand, the sound of a voice, the
manner of speaking, the subtlety of response of others,
the better to notice how they do things and what they value.
- You’re needing to question how your structure your day,
week, year, life?
- You want to reconsider what's important. You’re checking
if the same things that are important to others are important
to you.
- You scrutinize the way other people live and why they make
those choices.
- Your primary way of learning is by doing - by planting a
garden, making bread, chopping wood, making a sale.
- You want to know how other people do it, but you also want
to argue with their choices.
- You need the models of how others do things so you can your own.
- You’re dealing with the authorities of your life, such as your boss,
minister, lawyer, judges, mothers, fathers, guides and experts).
- You pursue arguments instead of letting them go, hassling
with others and disagreeing.
- You invite others to share their ways of doing things and then
disagree with them.
- You experiment with different ways of doing things.
- Your primary satisfaction derives from developing your physical,
intellectual, emotional and social skills.
These messages are especially important for you
when:
- You were between six through twelve years old
- You have just updated your identity
- You are learning a new way to do something
- Tou are parenting or grandparenting or caring for a child who is six through
twelve
- You are ages 19- 25, 32-37, 45-51, 58-64, 71-77,84-90
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Times when You Need the Emotional
Nutrients™
that Nourish Your Reproduction and Integration
- You’re revisiting the earlier phases of your life in rapid
succession.
- You want all the emotional nutrients, not just one portion of
them.
- You’re preoccupied with sex and sexuality, dealing with changes
in your sexual self.
- You’re often in a dreamy state, preoccupied with things internal, unseen,
unknown or yet to be.
- You feel lost, adrift in an uncharted land, even sexually naive
and virginal.
- You feel scattered, like you need to pull the pieces of yourself
together into one functioning whole.
- You want to pull up your “emotional taproot” from your familiar
relationships, moving to other sources of support.
- You feel like you’re in a transition zone, moving from old to new,
but not certain what that “new” is.
- You feel you need to integrate your sexual self with other
aspects of yourself.
- You’ve grown beyond mentoring relationships that have guided
you up until now.
- You’re developing your own personal philosophy.
- You’re done with being in a “junior” position and want to
establish your place among more “grown-up” or senior people.
These messages are especially important
for you when:
- You’re integrating your sexuality with other aspects of yourself
- You’re growing beyond parenting or mentoring relationships
- You’re actively developing our own personal philosophy
- You’re dealing with sexual changes and developing as a sexually mature
person
- You’re revisiting all the various facets of yourself and uniting
them
- You’re finding and developing a place as a more grown-up, mature
person.
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Times When You Need an Emotional Buffet,
a Variety of Emotional Nutrients™ That Nourish
Every Part of You at Once
- You’re having trouble knowing what’s going on in yourself
- You’re emotionally hungry, but you don’t know for what
- You’re experiencing needs from several parts of your emotional
self
- You’re confused and need help sorting things out
- You want an “emotional meal” that feeds all aspects of your
emotional self
- You just don’t feel like sorting things out, for whatever reason
- You feel traumatized, but you don’t know what part or parts of
you needs support
- You want an emotional meal with lots of variety
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